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Raise your hand if you thought “ooh, a shadow puppet!” Sorry. Not a shadow puppet.

Fisting!  It’s everywhere these days!  But really: like many sex acts that were once taboo/unheard of/un-sampled by the masses, fisting has gained more of a profile in the past couple of decades.  Wikipedia’s confusing entry about the popular book  A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting by Deborah Addington speculates that it only got on Amazon’s Hot 100 list once was because of some search thing (I can’t be more specific: something about the terms or the grammar in the entry is baffling me) but Wikipedia isn’t being very generous.  Fisting is here.  You could be next.

So of course the first time (okay, like 30 times) I heard about “fisting” I imagined a big ol’ fist just ramming up some chick’s vagina somehow and then just kind of sitting in there like not moving around or anything.  I’m not even sure I imagined another hand playing with her clit or anything like that.   Anal fisting did not occur to me as a possibility either.  Guess what?  I wasn’t watching nearly enough porn or I would have much sooner become able to visualize a good fisting sesh.  Porn: so educational and it’s free and it’s everywhere hiii abstinence-only advocates, not werkin.

Here is a nice video I found on xtube of what fisting generally looks like.  You can skip to around 11:40 if you want to see just vaginal fisting, and anal fisting happens beforehand and also way toward the end.  Also, total tangent, but I just keep imagining a stupid Pier 1 commercial with some irritating line like “every girl loves a two-for-one, am I right ladies?” and now I’m just thinking about how much I fucking hate Pier 1 commercials and how I’m going to think about Pier 1 commercials every time I encounter a double-penetration scenario forever and ever and HELP ME and this is how you ruin sex.

Back to fisting:  so I learned that the best way to start fisting is not to Hulk Smash but actually to make a little so-called “silent duck” as shown above and ease it into the vagina/rectum.  With lots of lubrication.  This reminds me of the “Sex with Ducks” song by Garfunkel and Oates and it is not.  Once all the fingers are inside the hand can feel around and make a fist if they want to, and probably will do more moving around than just sitting there.  If you haven’t watched the xtube video let me tell you there is lots of pumping and feeling around.  I should say additionally that the video’s participants, “amateurs” though they may be (xtube is like youtube for porn), are clearly fisting aficionados.  The hands going in don’t always look exactly like silent ducks, and the girl seems to like quite a lot of scrambling around that might not feel good for the un-or-lightly-initiated.

People like fisting if they like a “filled up” feeling, and it can result in great new types of orgasms.  People definitely like watching/making fisting videos.  Should we be worried, as the city of Los Angeles in 2002 was apparently worried, that the increased visibility of fisting is in some way dangerous and harmful?  Tearing can happen as with any large object inserted into the body, which isn’t comfortable and puts people at higher risk for H.I.V. infection, and when air is pushed into the vagina it can be fatal (I KNOW, scary, right?  This is RARE rare rare).  One risk that people think exists is that fisting will somehow stretch out a vagina so it can’t bounce back.  This is simply not true.  The stronger the PC muscles, the easier it is to be fisted, meaning that fisting requires strength and control and tightness, so nobody has to worry that engaging in fisting will somehow “ruin” them for other sex partners, as this concerned boyfriend thought he might do to his girlfriend.  Also, I mean, Kegels are magic.  Do some right now!

Is fisting the new anal sex or was anal sex the new fisting?  I don’t know because I haven’t been around long enough to know which one started being talked about in the context of straight people first or if that is even a good comparison.  To me, at least, it’s a similar comparison: something that seems kind of scary to a lot of people that might not actually be that scary and might actually be great if proper preparation and practice are undertaken.

References:

Puzzling wikipedia about A Hand in the Bush:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Hand_in_the_Bush

Anal/Vaginal fisting video:  http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=f66Wj-S540-

Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fisting

Will fisting make me loose?:  http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=18894

Will fisting make her loose?:  http://www.eastbayexpress.com/ebx/interest-in-fisting/Content?oid=2812540

Deborah Addington’s fisting book: http://www.goodvibes.com/display_product.jhtml?id=6-3-SC-BE12

Chloe from porn who likes fisting/Adam Glasser:  http://www.tinynibbles.com/adamglasser